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Post by Russg on Nov 23, 2017 22:31:04 GMT
I was curious to know, who amongst us has children? If you do, how do you find parenthood? Is it as rewarding as everyone says it is or is it just hard work?
If you don't have kids, would you like them one day? If so, why and if not, why?
I don't have any ankle-biters. Sometimes I think I would like to give it a go, but then I think of all the things I'd have to give up and all the sacrifices that you have to make and it makes me balk at the idea. I guess I worry that I'm a bit too selfish and self-centred to be a dad.
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Post by MattyJam on Nov 23, 2017 22:49:34 GMT
I have a baby boy called Noah, who is now almost eight months. He is a real fighter as he was born after only 6 months weighing just 2Ibs. First couple of months of his life was really scary, as so much was uncertain and it was really just a waiting game, waiting until he was fully cooked and ready to come home. From March to June, I practically lived in a hospital, day after day, week after week, for three months solid. He is now home and I think I appreciate him all the more because of everything he went through.
In terms of whether I enjoy parenthood, it IS a lot of hard work, especially if you want to be a good, supportive husband, a present and involved father and a provider for your family. Juggling those things hasn't been easy, but I wouldn't go back, as I couldn't and wouldn't want to imagine my life without my little man.
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Post by SmoothGangsta on Nov 23, 2017 23:37:42 GMT
I have absolutely no interest in ever having children. Although I'm still young and I suppose that could change. My attitude right now though is that it's not happening. I don't even see how a relationship could ever happen for me never mind children.
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Post by mjjfan810 on Nov 25, 2017 17:02:49 GMT
I have three girls, between the ages of 12-21. They are the absolute loves of my life. I say, go for it, you won't regret it.
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Post by dancingmjsdream on Nov 25, 2017 19:55:17 GMT
Honestly, if someone doesn't want any children he or she shouldn't have them. There are more than enough parents who obviously didn't want their children and aren't good at parenting.
Personally I would love to have 2 children. Ideally a boy and a girl. But I'm 19, I can wait 😂
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Post by Liberian Girl on Nov 26, 2017 11:46:16 GMT
I am a mummy of a little boy. Love him to pieces. It is very, very hard work, but somehow the cliché is simply true - it's all worth it. The hard work and tiring nights are nothing compared to how much I love him. He's my little angel, and he hears plenty of Michael Jackson in our house.
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Post by bedroom on Dec 4, 2017 15:45:25 GMT
No children. I want to adopt a few older kids one day though. But they need to be graduates with an income who will look after papa in his old age
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Post by TonyR on Dec 4, 2017 17:26:01 GMT
No children. I want to adopt a few older kids one day though. But they need to be graduates with an income who will look after papa in his old age Well, as long as you're doing it for the right reasons!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2018 11:54:10 GMT
I don't have any kids and being gay probably never will. I find I don't have enough patience and maturity to be a parent and even if I did, I feel I would be too strict. Children need love and respect, but also need to know boundaries. I would find it hard and despite being a liberal gay man, really feel they need a mother and father.
I could never take a wife in my condition, as marriages are built on love and respect, and marrying a woman to procreate with and then chasing around and loving men is disrespectful to the woman in my opinion. I guess like Michael Jackson I have respect for tradition. I respect women too much to force one into a lie, monogamy is my way and so is truth and respect.
Fortunately my straight brother has 3 children, aged 13, 10 and 7 (Girl is 13, other two are boys) and I get all my parenting energy through them. They already know to do well at school and never pick up drugs or smokes.
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Post by Michaels Lover on Apr 17, 2018 22:37:44 GMT
At this point in my life, I don't want any children. I always wanted children when I was younger, and lots of them, but my life didn't turn out the way I expected it to (does it ever?), and now at this point, due to health issues and other personal issues, I don't ever see myself having kids. It's too late anyway, and before I find anyone to have kids with, it will take even longer, and I'm not getting any younger. I mean, to meet someone, fall in love, have kids. That just doesn't happen overnight, and I don't even WANT a boyfriend. I don't want my kids to grow up without a father. I did, and I would never do that to my own kids
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Post by NatureCriminal7896 on Aug 15, 2021 10:58:44 GMT
sometimes i think about it. but i feel the earth too bad right now. maybe one day if God wants me too. i'm also an person with special needs.
so if i do have children i will need extra help to do so.
my special needs not contagious but i'm not sure will that carry on to my children.
but then sometimes the thoughts of children scares me. also i have times were i don't want kids. i love babies but they grow up.
so i guess that answer is God choice not mines. even if i don't have kids i'm okay with it. like i said with all the things above.
also the world can be so cruel.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 21, 2021 18:15:49 GMT
I don’t want kids, but I may want to foster parent later in life if I find a partner
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Post by MattyJam on Aug 21, 2021 18:23:07 GMT
I don’t want kids, but I may want to foster parent later in life if I find a partner It's such a difficult job. I used to want kids because I was afraid I would one day feel like I had missed out if I didn't. But honestly, it's the hardest, most exhausting thing I've ever done. A real mixed bag, some days it's wonderful, some days you just feel like you don't have anything left to give. And you have to sacrifice so much of yourself, it really isn't something people should do unless they're really prepared to put themselves last, financially, emotionally and mentally, for at least 18yrs.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 23, 2021 4:09:19 GMT
I don’t want kids, but I may want to foster parent later in life if I find a partner It's such a difficult job. I used to want kids because I was afraid I would one day feel like I had missed out if I didn't. But honestly, it's the hardest, most exhausting thing I've ever done. A real mixed bag, some days it's wonderful, some days you just feel like you don't have anything left to give. And you have to sacrifice so much of yourself, it really isn't something people should do unless they're really prepared to put themselves last, financially, emotionally and mentally, for at least 18yrs. Yeah it definitely seems difficult and I feel too broken to raise them but want to make things better for those who’s struggled in their lives, like I want to create good childhood memories for those who didn’t get it
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Post by Russg on Feb 21, 2023 22:05:51 GMT
Sometimes I think I should try and bring new life into the world. I could be both mom and dad quite literally. 😆
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