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Post by Russg on Aug 8, 2023 17:18:53 GMT
I’ve never been attractive and I will never be. I’m intelligent but only in a passing tests way, not in a real life way that has made me wealthy. I’d love to be hot for just one day and get a compliment or two.
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Post by MattyJam on Aug 8, 2023 17:33:06 GMT
In my experience, it's a terrible burden.
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Post by TonyR on Aug 8, 2023 17:40:58 GMT
Just come back from Turkey and it was fucking boiling.
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Post by invinciblegal on Aug 8, 2023 17:55:30 GMT
I worked and socialized with a young woman who was strikingly beautiful. She was one of the most insecure people I’ve ever known. She didn’t enjoy her beauty at all.
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 8, 2023 19:55:41 GMT
I’ve never been attractive and I will never be. I’m intelligent but only in a passing tests way, not in a real life way that has made me wealthy. I’d love to be hot for just one day and get a compliment or two. There are many ways to be attractive my friend. Being confident, self assured, being a decent human being, having a focus in life that isn’t all about superficiality. Russ, you could be all of the above mate! You could have it all! Personality goes a long way. Without it what good are “the looks?”
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Post by Russg on Aug 8, 2023 21:57:24 GMT
I’ve never been attractive and I will never be. I’m intelligent but only in a passing tests way, not in a real life way that has made me wealthy. I’d love to be hot for just one day and get a compliment or two.i There are many ways to be attractive my friend. Being confident, self assured, being a decent human being, having a focus in life that isn’t all about superficiality. Russ, you could be all of the above mate! You could have it all! Personality goes a long way. Without it what good are “the looks?” Aren't you married? When you're still on the shelf in your early 40s it starts to chip away at your self-esteem, trust me. I went to a Pride weekend with a hot friend a few weeks ago. The whole first night we went out I had men coming up to me saying "Wow - you're friend is so hot! You're not together are you?" or variations on that. Honestly, it was dozens and dozens of times. Last time I go out with him.
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Post by electriceyes on Aug 8, 2023 22:06:22 GMT
Confidence, a sense of humor, and kindness are hot. Those are attributes you CAN work on, if objective physical beauty is not possible.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 8, 2023 22:41:40 GMT
I used to wear contact lenses and makeup. But after some coworkers who thought I wasn’t good at my job told me I should be a model instead. I switched to glasses and minimal makeup after that cause it was getting annoying
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 9, 2023 15:00:58 GMT
There are many ways to be attractive my friend. Being confident, self assured, being a decent human being, having a focus in life that isn’t all about superficiality. Russ, you could be all of the above mate! You could have it all! Personality goes a long way. Without it what good are “the looks?” Aren't you married? When you're still on the shelf in your early 40s it starts to chip away at your self-esteem, trust me. I went to a Pride weekend with a hot friend a few weeks ago. The whole first night we went out I had men coming up to me saying "Wow - you're friend is so hot! You're not together are you?" or variations on that. Honestly, it was dozens and dozens of times. Last time I go out with him. I was under the impression that you wanted as much action as possible from wherever you could get it? Do you feel you’re ready to settle down now and commit to one person? To make sacrifices and not always put yourself first? Marriage can be wonderful but it takes work and commitment also. It suits some people it doesn’t suit others. Maybe you should back away from the scene for a year, remain celibate, do some work on yourself and try to let go of the insecurities. Embrace a few other aspects of life and deal with your emotions. Let go of all the Hollywood “hot” crap and be more excepting. What is beauty? A forehead or cheeks pulled back? Fake tits and ass? It’s only all superficial nonsense. It’s not reality. Anyway, I’ve gotten away from the original topic “Do you ever wonder what it’s like to be hot?” Who hasn’t? If you prick us do we not bleed?
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Post by SmoothGangsta on Aug 9, 2023 18:12:43 GMT
Just come back from Turkey and it was fucking boiling. I prefer cool weather myself.
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Post by pg13 on Aug 9, 2023 19:22:11 GMT
There are many ways to be attractive my friend. Being confident, self assured, being a decent human being, having a focus in life that isn’t all about superficiality. Russ, you could be all of the above mate! You could have it all! Personality goes a long way. Without it what good are “the looks?” Aren't you married? When you're still on the shelf in your early 40s it starts to chip away at your self-esteem, trust me. I went to a Pride weekend with a hot friend a few weeks ago. The whole first night we went out I had men coming up to me saying "Wow - you're friend is so hot! You're not together are you?" or variations on that. Honestly, it was dozens and dozens of times. Last time I go out with him. I think your problem is your own mentality which is what Aaron was trying to say. You're pretty negative about yourself, but the way to change that is to acknowledge at least one positive thing about yourself. Daily or weekly, doesn't matter! We've all had various problems in life - some of mine would gobsmack you if you knew - but the key to dealing with them is....MENTALITY. Allow yourself to be inspired by the 16th Century Samurai Miyamoto Musashi:
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Post by amaya on Aug 10, 2023 0:16:32 GMT
Genetics/puberty/life in general was not kind to me, so I unfortunately grew into a fugly pre-teen/teenager. Still pretty ugly now, really. I wear makeup and style my hair as best I can, but I know I'm never going to be "mainstream" attractive. And no, I have no confidence either; life shat all over any attempts I made to develop that, too.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 10, 2023 2:00:13 GMT
Genetics/puberty/life in general was not kind to me, so I unfortunately grew into a fugly pre-teen/teenager. Still pretty ugly now, really. I wear makeup and style my hair as best I can, but I know I'm never going to be "mainstream" attractive. And no, I have no confidence either; life shat all over any attempts I made to develop that, too. Sorry you’re feeling that way about your confidence. I think it’s good to be comfortable in your own skin according to your own rules and not society’s
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 10, 2023 7:39:05 GMT
Aren't you married? When you're still on the shelf in your early 40s it starts to chip away at your self-esteem, trust me. I went to a Pride weekend with a hot friend a few weeks ago. The whole first night we went out I had men coming up to me saying "Wow - you're friend is so hot! You're not together are you?" or variations on that. Honestly, it was dozens and dozens of times. Last time I go out with him. I think your problem is your own mentality which is what Aaron was trying to say. You're pretty negative about yourself, but the way to change that is to acknowledge at least one positive thing about yourself. Daily or weekly, doesn't matter! We've all had various problems in life - some of mine would gobsmack you if you knew - but the key to dealing with them is....MENTALITY. Allow yourself to be inspired by the 16th Century Samurai Miyamoto Musashi: All of the above. 👍🏼
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Post by Russg on Aug 10, 2023 9:18:35 GMT
Aren't you married? When you're still on the shelf in your early 40s it starts to chip away at your self-esteem, trust me. I went to a Pride weekend with a hot friend a few weeks ago. The whole first night we went out I had men coming up to me saying "Wow - you're friend is so hot! You're not together are you?" or variations on that. Honestly, it was dozens and dozens of times. Last time I go out with him. I was under the impression that you wanted as much action as possible from wherever you could get it? Do you feel you’re ready to settle down now and commit to one person? To make sacrifices and not always put yourself first? Marriage can be wonderful but it takes work and commitment also. It suits some people it doesn’t suit others. Maybe you should back away from the scene for a year, remain celibate, do some work on yourself and try to let go of the insecurities. Embrace a few other aspects of life and deal with your emotions. Let go of all the Hollywood “hot” crap and be more excepting. What is beauty? A forehead or cheeks pulled back? Fake tits and ass? It’s only all superficial nonsense. It’s not reality. Anyway, I’ve gotten away from the original topic “Do you ever wonder what it’s like to be hot?” Who hasn’t? If you prick us do we not bleed? TBH, I chase the bussy so ferociously because it's all I have, but even that I'm growing tired of. I've had 2 serious relationships in my life, one ended because I was too immature and didn't realise what I had until it was too late and then my last boyfriend cheated on me. I don't connect with people easily and in gay circles it's hard to find people on apps or in clubs that aren't just after random hookups. I just think it'd be nice to be hot, not just because of the ego and privilege that comes with it, but to have your pick of partners. To not even have to try and then have people throwing themselves at you must be nice, based on something that is no accomplishment of your own. Plus, the MJ fetish isn't exactly a big turn on for a lot of guys. Most gays think Mj was a raving nonce and can't understand why I like dressing up as him in the boudoir.
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