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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 10, 2023 10:09:38 GMT
I was under the impression that you wanted as much action as possible from wherever you could get it? Do you feel you’re ready to settle down now and commit to one person? To make sacrifices and not always put yourself first? Marriage can be wonderful but it takes work and commitment also. It suits some people it doesn’t suit others. Maybe you should back away from the scene for a year, remain celibate, do some work on yourself and try to let go of the insecurities. Embrace a few other aspects of life and deal with your emotions. Let go of all the Hollywood “hot” crap and be more excepting. What is beauty? A forehead or cheeks pulled back? Fake tits and ass? It’s only all superficial nonsense. It’s not reality. Anyway, I’ve gotten away from the original topic “Do you ever wonder what it’s like to be hot?” Who hasn’t? If you prick us do we not bleed? TBH, I chase the bussy so ferociously because it's all I have, but even that I'm growing tired of. I've had 2 serious relationships in my life, one ended because I was too immature and didn't realise what I had until it was too late and then my last boyfriend cheated on me. I don't connect with people easily and in gay circles it's hard to find people on apps or in clubs that aren't just after random hookups. I just think it'd be nice to be hot, not just because of the ego and privilege that comes with it, but to have your pick of partners. To not even have to try and then have people throwing themselves at you must be nice, based on something that is no accomplishment of your own. Plus, the MJ fetish isn't exactly a big turn on for a lot of guys. Most gays think Mj was a raving nonce and can't understand why I like dressing up as him in the boudoir. Why don’t you give up and the scene for awhile? I don’t mean stop being a gay man but back away from the clubs and bars because they’re laced with promiscuity that is damaging you and giving you a warped perspective of yourself and effecting your self image and confidence thus dragging your self esteem into the ground. Set higher standards for yourself Russ. Don’t jump into bed with just anyone. Abstinence is potent. I really believe that. Also, if you can leave yourself alone and not be chasing a quick release the pheromones will begin to multiply and you’ll exude attractiveness. I’m sure you’ve seen people who wouldn’t be considered “hot” by superficial standards but there’s something about them that’s incredibly hot and sexy that you can’t quite put your finger on -literally- or explain. Well, they’re not overindulge or indulging at all. Their focus is elsewhere and because it is it’s unbelievably attractive. Have a little thing done if you really want to such as a little surgery if it’s what you really want but if you don’t address underlying issues a surgery won’t work long term. You’ll drift back into insecurity. By the way, when you drop the pretence and just communicate without being loud and abrasive like you are here it’s hell of a lot more attractive. I’m not saying don’t have a laugh or a joke, heck we all have our moments, but when you’re being real it’s a really nice quality in you. I think you’ve been hurt in your life Russ and you hide behind a facade as a way to hide your insecurities and you use sex as a way to numb pain in you. You just being Russ is enough. Begin to be a little more excepting of yourself and give yourself a break my friend. You’re incredibly unfair to yourself and overly harsh. Everyone else is only a mortal person like you. No matter how gorgeous they are. Apologies for digressing into something a little more deep.
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Post by TonyR on Aug 11, 2023 18:53:57 GMT
I reckon the privilege of being beautiful trumps all other privileges.
I've seen the way gorgeous people get treated, it's unbelievable.
Unfortunately sometimes it's as the expense of being a good person as everything comes so easy.
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 11, 2023 20:11:00 GMT
Down with Hot Privilege! White people have suffered from this discrimination long enough!
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 11, 2023 20:53:00 GMT
Just in case there’s any hot people reading this, I’m joking. But please think of the less fortunate and please consider sharing your bed with them. For they have been bleeding for long enough!
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 11, 2023 21:16:24 GMT
MJ was pro hot people!
Michael Jackson “HOT” street.
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Post by ghost on Aug 12, 2023 6:03:25 GMT
I reckon the privilege of being beautiful trumps all other privileges. I've seen the way gorgeous people get treated, it's unbelievable. Unfortunately sometimes it's as the expense of being a good person as everything comes so easy. I like being a plain and frumpy looking 2 or 3. It's the only way to ensure men leave me alone. Whenever I dress feminine or "guzzy up" it's a whole fucking problem because straight men are actually that damn desperate. Even if you look like a Gremlin that's been fed after midnight. Which I do.
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Post by MattyJam on Aug 12, 2023 9:40:16 GMT
Wow, the self esteem in this thread is low.
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Post by ghost on Aug 12, 2023 9:44:56 GMT
Wow, the self esteem in this thread is low. I don't consider myself to have low self esteem. In many ways, I am very confident and happy with myself. I'm just a realist, and I know I will never be a size zero Barbie-type or someone that will turn heads. My husband says he thinks I'm hot, bless his heart and I believe he means it. But I genuinely think when you love someone they see you through rose-tinted glasses. The same way I'd rather have my hubby, complete with his love handles and beer guts over Chris Hemsworth. I think. lol
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Post by pg13 on Aug 12, 2023 9:46:40 GMT
I reckon the privilege of being beautiful trumps all other privileges. I've seen the way gorgeous people get treated, it's unbelievable. Unfortunately sometimes it's as the expense of being a good person as everything comes so easy. Like the difference between how a gorgeous female teacher who had sex with a student is treated compared to male ones? Recall one where she said she was too beautiful for jail!
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Post by aazzaabb on Aug 12, 2023 11:44:02 GMT
Wow, the self esteem in this thread is low. All you need is the will to want it and a little self esteem
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Post by mjjfan810 on Aug 21, 2023 10:08:27 GMT
Nobody ever told me I was handsome growing up except for my mum and sweet little old ladies. People told me I was “kind” which at the time felt like “that’s it?! I’m nice and that’s it? 😠”.
Here’s my brag though. I’m in my 50s and I’ve grown accustomed to seeing cell phone photos of me and now I can recognize them. And I was in a really long relationship that predated cell phones and apps so I’d didn’t ever hear I was “sexy” or “hot” or “handsome” until I was late 40s. And I like the way I look more today than I did then, and I didn’t even dislike the way I looked. I just didn’t give it any thought.
When I was a kid my dad would often say things like “well, maybe you’ll grow into that nose” and “you look just like my father. You have the ‘big wide open car dor ears’ just like he does”. He told me he was proud of how well I did in school and what I did in my career. But my looks…eh?
So I hope that I’m not coming across as someone who is complaining about how I look or don’t know that looks open doors for people. If they did for me, I didn’t make the connection, but I never really thought “I wish I was better looking” because I was comfortable, but very invisible. And I liked being invisible.
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