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Post by Russg on Aug 26, 2023 20:48:09 GMT
Is anyone else having to do deal with this in their lives right now?
My father seems to have really aged in the last six months all of a sudden. He's 84 and lives alone but was always very active and eats super healthy, he used to go swimming several times a week and has a very strict diet. He had a "lady friend" that he used to see for years, but in the past six months she's slowly been distancing herself, probably noticing his physical decline in recent months. It all started when he had a slip at the pool and then lost his confidence to get back on the horse.
It's sad as it seems to me he's kind of given up. He's also started to do strange things around the house, like the other day he called me up and told me he'd ran out of his medication and asked if I could pick up his prescription for him and drop it round. I turn up and his meds are on the dining room table, in full view and he had loads left. There's been a few other things as well. My brother thinks it's time to start looking for a care home, but I hate the thought of that.
But I find myself constantly worrying about him lately, whereas he always used to be so independent and switched on. It's a head trip to see him decline like this in such a short period of time.
I really don't know what to do for the best.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 26, 2023 23:37:38 GMT
Sorry that’s happening. If not going to a home, maybe a psw would help?
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Post by Russg on Aug 27, 2023 5:42:40 GMT
Sorry that’s happening. If not going to a home, maybe a psw would help? PSW?
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Post by ghost on Aug 27, 2023 6:01:15 GMT
My parents are getting on a bit now. They're both in their late 70s and I live about 250miles away which I hate. I have siblings nearby but they're not that much help unfortunately.
My Dad is a lot of work and in poor health and I worry about my Mum coping. There's not much you can do Russ, other than be there as much as you can and offer emotional support.
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Post by butterflies2 on Aug 27, 2023 6:09:57 GMT
Sorry that’s happening. If not going to a home, maybe a psw would help? PSW? Personal support worker
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Post by MattyJam on Aug 29, 2023 21:07:29 GMT
It is hard watching your parents age. My dad has just been discharged from hospital after spending a week recovering from a fall. It really knocked him for six and it was a reminder of how precious he is to me, but also how he isn't a spring chicken anymore.
After losing my mum last year in her sixties, I hope my dad will live on for many more years to come, but he's overweight and not particularly healthy. At the end of the day, I try to remind myself that any of us could go at anytime, so I'm just grateful for every day I get to spend with the people who matter to me.
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Post by Russg on Aug 29, 2023 21:30:20 GMT
It is hard watching your parents age. My dad has just been discharged from hospital after spending a week recovering from a fall. It really knocked him for six and it was a reminder of how precious he is to me, but also how he isn't a spring chicken anymore. After losing my mum last year in her sixties, I hope my dad will live on for many more years to come, but he's overweight and not particularly healthy. At the end of the day, I try to remind myself that any of us could go at anytime, so I'm just grateful for every day I get to spend with the people who matter to me. I kept hoping my father would marry his younger woman so the task would fall on that whore, but she upped and left at the first sign of trouble. Can't blame her really... what would be in it for her? If you don't take the spouse you don't get the house, and the bitch ain't Mother fucking Theresa!
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Post by invinciblegal on Aug 29, 2023 21:45:12 GMT
I only have my mother left now. And when the time comes, she's going in a home. I've already told her if it's left up to me (which it inevitably will be because I'm the eldest and "most responsible") she's going in a home. She thought I was joking.
I am not.
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Post by TonyR on Aug 30, 2023 18:06:59 GMT
It is hard watching your parents age. My dad has just been discharged from hospital after spending a week recovering from a fall. It really knocked him for six and it was a reminder of how precious he is to me, but also how he isn't a spring chicken anymore. After losing my mum last year in her sixties, I hope my dad will live on for many more years to come, but he's overweight and not particularly healthy. At the end of the day, I try to remind myself that any of us could go at anytime, so I'm just grateful for every day I get to spend with the people who matter to me. I kept hoping my father would marry his younger woman so the task would fall on that whore, but she upped and left at the first sign of trouble. Can't blame her really... what would be in it for her? If you don't take the spouse you don't get the house, and the bitch ain't Mother fucking Theresa! Beautiful words man.
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